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Emotions Are Relative To Where We Are Now

There are times when the same situation viewed from a different position in life with a different state of mind, all by the same person can seem like either a blessing or a curse. I will give an example of a lesson from my life concerning my nearest and dearest that illustrates this perfectly.

The elephant in the room

My grandson Jake was 9 months old at the time. From birth, he had an odd-shaped head which at the time everybody assumed would come right with early growth and development. At least that is what I had assumed hopefully. One picture after another appeared on social media and it seemed to me to be getting more misshapen instead of less and being, with the usual British politeness, totally ignored by everybody. Jakes’s head had become the elephant in the room. I was obviously focusing on it which is never a good thing. Obsession is never far away from an excessive focus on any matter

Straight to the point

Eventually my son and his family visited us and I just came straight out and asked the questions that it seemed all were waiting to be asked and answered. This seemed to surprise them a little. As it turned out, they had made tentative enquiries and were waiting follow up appointments. They were very interested in my thoughts as they felt they were to close to Jake to be objective about his head. Love can be beautifully blind. From the moment I asked I sensed I released some sense of freedom to talk about it and it seemed everybody then wanted to discuss Jake’s beautiful little misshapen head. The weight of opinion was that it was such a shame and a terrible thing to happen to a baby. No argument from me there. Jake’s head had become a major concern for family and friends alike.

I will now show how that changed in a brief moment.

How perspective can change in a heart beat

Upon visiting the paediatrician concerning Jake’s head the doctor was prompted by his intuition to examine Jake further and to cut a long story short he discovered a cancerous tumour on Jake’s liver.

Jake’s head was forgotten for now.

The curse of Jake’s misshapen head had become the blessing that had led to a timely discovery that would save his life.

I write this days after Jake has undergone extensive chemotherapy and eventually a liver transplant (incidentally! Smiling constantly).

Nobody can know what might have been but one of the many lessons here is to always accept the way things are wherever that may fall on the scale of our current perceptions. What is “now” is all we have and is to be accepted as a blessing as the reality is that our lives can get better or worse. There are no guarantees. This is not to say we can’t act to improve and progress our situations but that acceptance of the way things are now is the starting point.

Faith is expecting that life will get better in one way or another

Wishing that life was other than it is at this time presents the possibilities of being worse or better and what you get in life is relative to your perception. I think it is okay to want more whilst accepting life as it is now. Another of life’s many paradoxes.

Not taking life for granted

One meal a day in our abundant lives would signify hell on earth for many unless choosing to fast intermittently but the choice is there to feed often. Some would say too often. I agree, but my point is there are millions of people, fellow human beings on this planet that would consider one meal every day the most wonderful blessing. All too often we take our lives for granted and complain constantly about trivialities. Our lives are dependant on our situations (environment) and our state of mind to appreciate how blessed we are.

Counting our blessings

This is one of those moments when the often repeated and generally empty worded cliches take on the real meaning when used in the right context and not spouted randomly. “Count your blessings” is one such cliche. The truth can be tangible when we have emotion-laden experiences as evidence of the wisdom contained in the words.

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